Being human we all have to face challenges life throws at us at every juncture. Some of them are bound to test you to the brink and others may push you to the wall. The inherent nature of these challenges is that they are all unpredictable and one cannot really plan. The problem is that we live a life planning for the unexpected and inspite of all this planning we still fall short of plans when we face reality. Then how do we deal with this?
I have always advocated what I learnt from my guru that acceptance of people and situation at a given time will solve a lot of problems. This kind of approach has helped me come out of many a situation without conflict and that too maintaining a calm demeanour. This approach does not mean that one has to simply accept the situation and be at the mercy or at the taking end of the situation.
Acceptance is only the first step towards resolving half the problem on hand. What happens when we accept a problem or situation?
- We are actually acknowledging that there is something more powerful which is not only governing our life but also every thing happening around us. There is a definite pre-set plan in place which is beyond human comprehension…… We should remember that we are only a minuscule part of a system which is controlled by nature which has a operating system that is more advanced and difficult for human beings to conceive.
- This action of acceptance also unknowingly brings us to a very beautiful state of mind i.e gratitude. The resultant mind-set not only gives us positive thoughts but also results in action that is complimentary.
There is also one more thought process that I would like to share with my readers. We all are faced with situations where nothing seems to improve in-spite of all the efforts and acceptance. Then which direction do we take? The most common approach is to fire fight the situation trying to control small factors that are immediate and are perceived to be the actual cause of problem. This approach can only give results when there is an actual fire which is engulfing everything that comes in its path.
But the problems we face in life cannot be compared to fire-fighting. If we adopt this kind of mind-set we are not actually doing any thing to address the actual problem but resolving small issues that are a result of the bigger problem on hand.
The best approach would be to do something constructive which can actually solve the problem on the long run though they may seem too far fetched and time consuming This will systematically stem the flow of the immediate resulting problems on hand.
Most of the time we all know what needs to be done but we all are looking for alternative quick fix solutions but again let me remind you …… acceptance is the key…… acceptance that the problems to be resolved need some time. Having said this have we traversed a circle and come back to acceptance?
So let us accept that acceptance is the key to success or key to acceptance…… Confusing though it may sound…. for me acceptance and success can be mentioned in the same breath because acceptance leads to success because both complement each other!!
By blogger: Jagdish S Kolur